Thursday, 20 September 2012

Abortion vs Active Murder

Both abortion or actively murdering them are absolutely not right so is there a possibility of weighing which is the lesser of two evil?  Or are they equally evil?

Going for an abortion or killing their babies seems to be the in thing other than Oppa Gangnam Style in Malaysia nowadays.  You might perceive me as saying this in a light manner but not because I think it is a light matter but rather, the teens or the ladies seems to be dealing with unwanted pregnancy in a light matter.  They seem to be removing a life from their body as though they are merely removing a pimple from their face.  Nothing more nothing less.  Is this what our Malaysian society believes in today?  Rape is not a serious business.  Abortion is like eating cendol.  Throwing babies everywhere is comparable to dogs taking a dump everywhere.  For those of you who are hearing this for the first time, I suggest you start reading newspaper be it in hardcopy or via the Internet.

The first few cases, it shocked the nation.  What about after 5 cases?  Then 10?  Then hundreds?  It does seem to spark outrage from certain people (like me) but what about the people who've done it?  Those who are considering to do it?  Those who are about to get themselves into this situation?

It would've always been easier to just turn a blind eye and not talk about it because what's the point?  Sooner or later people will forget about this until the next case and who knows how many would care?  Wrong.  This type of thinking is very wrong.  It's tiring yes, but it's worth your time to read this and to understand how important it is because it could happen to anyone at all.  It could happen to your sister, or your cousin, your friend or..... yourself.

It's always easier to take the higher way up.  To just look down on those who has been through this and mock them, scold them, criticize them, brandish them.  If it works, it would've worked by now but judging by how things are going, this is not likely the case.

For those of you who are not from Malaysia, let me fill you in with a bit of summary of what has been happening lately.

Lets start with 6th July 2012.  On that very day, 2 accounts of dead babies were found at two separate State.  One was found in a knapsack (delivered by a 16 year old) while the other was found in a shoebox (mother not found).   If you wish to read more, you can read it here and here.

2 months later, on 8th September 2012, another 16 year old flushed her newborn baby down the toilet bowl after 'unexpectedly' giving birth which resulted in getting the babys' head stuck and having to break the toilet bowl to retrieve the body.  She claims she is unaware that she is pregnant (and mark my words I will have some nasty comment about this below) I am not making any of this up, you can read it here

Unsurprisingly, barely 2 weeks later on 17th September 2012, a 20 year old tossed her newborn baby down the 3rd floor of her flat with her umbilical cord still attached.  Once again, parents of this 20 year old says they are unaware of her being pregnant.  You can read it here

You should know that I am merely taking those reports from July until September this year and disregarding all the earlier reports from January 2012.  3 months and 4 cases of (reported) active murders of their own babies.  What about the unreported murders?  What about abortion?

Abortion (strictly speaking for those who are pregnant not via rape) is made illegal in Malaysia hence it makes all the difference.  If it's legalize in your country, I have nothing against that but where abortion is made illegal here, there is all the difference.

First things first, why abortion?  Is it a backup solution for those of you who 'party first suffer later'?  Second thing, can you live with it?  For those of you who have done abortion, please understand that abortion is not about not having that child you never had.  It is about that child that you've murdered.  Third, do you EVEN KNOW what are the after effects of abortion?  Or did you went and abort your child without knowing any consequences?

Here, we have to look from 2 point of views.  One is from the lady who went for abortion.  One is for the doctor who performed the abortion.  Should the lady has done it?  Or should the Doctor has done it?  That, I leave it to your own good judgment.

I will also not touch on the good side or the bad side of abortion because it is an endless argument.  It is as much as asking if I am pretty or not because different people will always and never fail to give two sides of the argument.  I've got people telling me I am attractive and I've got people calling me a troll (as in Shrek).  The message that I am trying to bring across here is:  Never put yourself in the situation that leads you to abortion.

And this message is to all the ladies out there:  'Be. Smart.'

The time has change where men no longer exist to protect us.  I am also not touching on gender equality over here.  My message is simple and clear:  Ladies, learn how to protect yourself.  You can have (because no one is able to stop you if you really want to but this are not words of encouragement) pre-marital sex, heck even underage sex and we all know that you are perfectly capable of involving yourself with sexual activity from age 12 onwards.  You could be curious, you could be more mature than your peers or you are just so fazed by that guy you are seeing now.  You could be doing it based on the novels that you have read (E.g. Twilight or Fifty Shades of Grey) or movies that you are exposed to.  Some of you even saw your parents doing it and you are dying to know what sex is like.  There is no need for a volume of Dummies Guide to Sex because every one with sufficient and reasonable intellectual will recognize sex.  I say they recognize, I did not say they understand the importance or the symbol of it.

You are going to have sex and you are going to do it without your parents knowledge.  What I am merely pleading and begging you to do is to just at the very least, practice safe sex especially when you are not even sure of what you are getting into.  For those of you with children or with younger sisters, please let them know the existence of condoms.  This are not gestures of encouragement but rather as a gesture of last hope.  At least if they are doing it, they are doing it with protection.  Getting pregnant is one thing, getting disease is another.

Another thing that all you ladies should know is, before you have sex, do this one last thing for yourself (because this is not for anyone else).  Look into the eyes of your partner and ask him with a straight face:  Is he going to take responsibility with you IF by luck or by chance you got pregnant.  It's one very simple question and I expect him to answer you with nothing but a 'Yes'.  By taking responsibility means marrying you and taking care of the child together.  Lets not consider his/your background or even the possibility of you guys getting married.  Just ask him that.  If he fiddles, says he is unsure, convince you that nothing of that sort is going to happen because you guys are using protection or you are taking pills or he won't come into you, it's time to get dressed and walk out of that room.

You HAVE TO UNDERSTAND that he will be walking a free man and you are the one carrying a life in you if you do get pregnant.  YOU will be the one sheltering all the guilt.  YOU will be the one carrying all the shame.  YOU will be the one facing your parents.  YOU will be the one who has to make a decision of killing it or letting it live because if you opt for an abortion, YOU will be the one who will have your insides being ripped off you.  You could say that both you and your partner bears 50/50 percent of sin but let me tell you, it does not work that way.  No one could have that child out of you other than you yourself regardless of what others says.  So if he is not ready to be responsible for you, why should you let yourself go through this?  Don't be naive for one second and think 'it won't happen to me' or 'bleh I won't be so lucky' because you will never, ever know and by the time you do know, you would've wished you never did it.

Say if you DO give birth to the baby then what?  Fatherless?  You are going to bring the baby up alone?   Again, it all falls down on your shoulder, not his.  So if he could not bring himself to say 'Yes' in comparison to what he could cause you, do you think this guy is worth it then?  Always remember, it takes 2 hands to clap.

If after all this you still think it's the right choice for you to get an abortion, the choice is yours.  For those of you who does not want to get an abortion but you are unable to keep the baby, please do not attempt to leave your baby any where.  Malaysia has opened its first 'Baby Hatches' Program modelled based on similar programmes from Germany, Pakistan and Japan by a Non-Government Organization (NGO) where mothers are allowed to leave their babies anonymously in a hatch.  You open the hatch door where there is an incubator bed and after you close the door and leaves, the detector will set off the alarm to notify the staffs.  I've already searched the necessary details so all you need to do is just share this piece of information with anyone at all:

No. 6, Lorong SS 1/24 A
Kampung Tunku
47300 Petaling Jaya
Selangor Malaysia


Tel:  +603 7876 1900
Fax: +603 7875 1900
After hours emergency number:
(after 6.00 p.m.): +6010 2830 528

I am not sure if they tape the phone call or anything but just try this place out alright?  Give yourself a chance, give other people a chance as well to adopt your child.  Just remember this message below.



Or, you could make a difference and turn this burden of yours into happiness for someone else.  There are tonnes of couples who wants to conceive but they are not able to do so.  Give yourself a chance.  Give others a chance as well.







Useful information are up till here only so you can stop reading now.  Below are merely rants.


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WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY YOU DON'T KNOW YOU ARE PREGNANT?  Dumb is not even the right word to use to describe you because it is apparently not stupid enough.  You are bloody 16 and you don't know you are pregnant?  You know what is sex but you don't know what is pregnancy?  You don't know what's period?  As far as I am concerned, you passed PMR (Sec 3) or if you had matriculation class, you are CURRENTLY in Sec 3 and you don't tell me you are not taking Science because as far as I know, Science is a compulsory subject in PMR.  I chose not to believe that your teacher fail you by not teaching you what is period.  You DID NOT have period for 9 effing months.  Normal girls would be panicking to think they are either pregnant or something is VERY WRONG somewhere and you think it's NORMAL and go around telling 'woops baby fell from Mother Stork'

And WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DIDN'T KNOW YOUR DAUGHTER IS PREGNANT?  I've heard of the saying that a man won't know his wife is pregnant until her tummy covers the TV but even a guy cannot be that thick.  A KID can tell if someone is pregnant because pregnant means putting on at least 20kg and above despite how small frame you are and ESPECIALLY if you are small frame, putting on 20kg is a feat, especially if its concentrated around your belly and AS PARENTS YOU EFFING SAY YOU DIDN'T KNOW YOUR DAUGHTER IS PREGNANT?  Are you high for 180 days x 24 hours a day or are you blind?  If you are neither, you deserved to be slapped.