Tuesday, 19 February 2013

Never Forget the 3 Types of People in Your Life

One, those who have helped when you were in your difficult times.

Two, those who had left you when you were in your difficult times.

Three, those who'd put you in your difficult times.

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I came across this so-called principle today and I immediately thought of the old saying "Forgive and Forget".  So what are we supposed to do now?  Are we really to forgive and forget a wrong that was done onto us?  Are we actually CAPABLE of forgiving AND forgetting?

What about you?  Are you the Forgive and Forget type or Forgive but NOT Forget?

I believe up till now, most of us has been 'hurt' or 'wronged' by someone close to us be it your partner, your best friend or just a friend that you thought you could trust.  So what happens after you are wronged?  Do you guys break off the friendship or you simply mend it?  If you DO mend it, what happens next?  You have forgiven the person yes, but would you actually forget what the person has done?

From past experience, I am the forgive but not forget type because I find it impossible to just slip this piece of memory off my mind.  I could push it to the furthest corner my brain could store but it will still be there somewhere.  If only my memory wasn't being such a scumbag during exams where my trusted motto applies:  Study and WILL, MOST DEFINITELY forget.  Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.

My mom is the forgive and forget type because there are times when someone else brought up things that happened sometime ago and she has no recollection of that event happening so I guess the old saying does apply somehow, in certain cases :D

I am sure there are some among us who does NOT forgive and does NOT forget.  I always find it easier to forgive someone for their mistakes but it has proven very hard to forget about it because that feeling of being misunderstood or blamed or victimized, it's much harder to store that memory away.

Anyways, back to today's post, it would seem that the principle stands solid for me.  I am not able to forget those who has helped me in my troubled times.  If I am able to that, I will label myself as a heartless bish and a A-Class Ungrateful person.

Two, I might just totally forget about the person that would ditch me when I am in troubled waters, skipping through the forgiving part conveniently because people like this does not deserve your attention nor sorrows towards them.

Third, WHO in the right mind would actually forget someone who TRIED to DROWN them?!  You could forgive the person if it was done unintentionally (like kicking you full int he face accidentally when you tried to resurface and stuff) but would you actually forget?  I don't think so!  Morever so if it was done intentionally!  You would be mental to actually forgive and forget such person lol -> at least that's my honest opinion :D

Well enough about me, what about you?

Enough of depressing post :D  Some random coordinates throughout the weekend! <3



Saturday! :D  


Sunday!




Miniature Fish-Tail Braid!


I like the back design of this top :D


See you guys next post!

67 comments:

  1. cute looks lov the red skirt! and your so right :)

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  2. hey dear thanx for dropping by my blog
    n im really sorry for the typing error of my blog's url
    i like ur top its cute
    followed u back on gfc n facebook
    keep posting
    xoxox

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    1. Thanks!! No problem!! Gotta help one another out <3

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  3. Your fish tail braid is beautiful and so is the back to that shirt!
    It looks so warm where you live!! I'm jealous!

    I am kinda like you where I do forgive, but I don't forget (sometimes depending on what they did) I am usually easy to get along with which can be bad since I can be easily pushed around. Luckily I have people who stand up for me which is nice!

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    1. Yes! Having people to help stand up for us is a bliss!!

      Lol it look so cold where you come from, I am semi jealous because sometimes the heat just gets to me and make up literally melts after 2 hours QQ

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  4. Touchy topic, I shall refuse to comment more than this: "I used to think I was the forgive and not forget type, until-"

    You know me so well (more than I do myself sometimes), so I probably didn't have to say anything at all xD

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    1. Lol I guess sometimes what other people does affects us along the way

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  5. I think forgiveness is absolutely possible. Forgetting, not as easy. But nothing in life is easy, so if you want to progress, you gotta try, right? :-)
    Your braid looks super cute by the way!
    -Jamie
    ChatterBlossom

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    1. That makes the two of us then =P But at times I find it tiring to even try because it could be a repeated wrong, but I guess different circumstances call for different measures =P

      Thanks!!

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  6. love the top! ;D

    http://charmeusee.blogspot.com/

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  7. Your hair is super cute :)!

    Just wanted to let you know I updated my Korean straight eyebrow tutorial blog post with a giveaway :)

    Would love for you to participate!

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  8. I am such a meanie type. I never forget. Sounds bad but not everone on Earth is like that. I love to hate the person that hurt me or neglected me. If someone kicks you , you should attck back. I believe that revenge is right!
    Wanna follow each other? Let me know :)
    Aree With Umbrella

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    1. Hahaha, "careful girls, we have a badass here!" <3 You go girl! Show them who's boss!

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  9. What a cute braid ! :) Adorable blog. xx

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  10. i am a forget bt not easy to forgive person ;-D is there such a thing? you mentioned right? so im one of those persons. im glad that I can easily forget those people who wronged me, because I swear i couldn't easily forgive them.



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    1. I believe everyone reacts differently to different situation so it's okay to be different because everyone has different choices! (abusing the word 'different') lol!

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  11. I try to forgive but NEVER forget. Not that I hold on to bad experiences, but if you do then you get screwed over and over - like you said yourself...
    P.S.: The outfit from the last pic is really adorable.;)

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    1. Seems like we are on the winning track as many of us think alike! <3

      Thanks hehehe, it's a good find for that outfit for a very reasonable price too! <3

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  12. great post! i am the forgive, but never forget type of person too. it is especially harder when it is someone you truly are close to. i have been wronged and i have forgave but when there are instances that quickly remind me of what they have wronged me for, the emotions quickly come up and i never forget. but i learned that nothing good comes from always reminding them for what they wronged me for... so i guess you do have to try to forget =/

    sweet outfits and love the little braid =)
    -xo.melody

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    1. You worded it exactly atune to how I feel ._. And at times though I know that there's nothing good that comes from reminding them for what they wronged me, at times the emotions really just screw everything up :< It's like a small voice at the back of your head constantly telling you to 'be careful' of this person but we shall all try hard!

      Thanks for dropping by, Melody! <3

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  13. Hi!, I just want to say that you're so cute!

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    1. Thank you <3 And thanks for following me! Do you have a blog that I could perhaps follow as well? <3<3

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  14. well, my precious aunt told me i should "Forget and Forgive" which i really did..
    but when some times that thing just poofed of a sudden then you will still feel that hatred. then the next thing is you will ask yourself "am i really forget and forgive that person" some situations like that. Up until now, i trying to help myself of forgiving and forgetting type. maybe, i'm still stuck in "forgiving and not forgetting type".

    -itskeicee

    http://www.itskeicee.blogspot.com

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  15. With me, it depends. I am usually "forget and forgive" person, but there are situations that are only "forgive" :-)
    Love the combi of jeans jacket and red skirt!

    WorldByBella

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  16. Hmm well it actually depends on the situation.. Of cours it's easier to forgive than forget, I've found myself in situations like that so many times. I always give a person a second chance but you always have to keep in mind what that person did wrong in the first place, don't be naive. People nowadays don't change so quickly lol >.<

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  17. Nice blog you have...wanna follow each other?
    please follow with GFC, just leave me a comment and I'll follow u back!
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    1. Thank you! 'zzzZzzzzZzz' I hope it's working!

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  19. I've always wanted to know how to do a fishtail braid. so pretty!


    The House of Shoes

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    1. Hahaha perhaps I could do a quick and simple tutorial for you next time! <3

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  20. the red pants and top combo is really cute!

    love from the NANA girls xoxo

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  21. such a cute top!!! love the braided hair too!!

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  22. I'm in love with your first outfit! It's so stylish and yet simple, LIKE!
    And I really can't stand People3, however, I guess that People2 are even worse. There's a quote called "A Friend in need is a friend indeed". Well, you'll see who is standing behind you in difficult times.

    Nice post btw!
    xx

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    1. Whoa that's a very nice quote, thanks for sharing Maho! Lol I do hope when I am ever in a difficult time, I can still fall back and there will be someone there to catch me

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  23. Haha! Great posting. Way to go, gal! :)
    Allow yours truly to share my two-sen worth here. ;)
    Yep, this forgive & forget stuff may sound like an over-used cliche, but it does happen to every average Joe or Jill on the street. You can put it down as part & parcel of our everyday life. It's there & it does happen, whether you like it or not.
    I would say the majority of us will belong to the forgive, but cannot forget category, or may be you can use the 80/20 rule here. After all, we are all humans, right?, with feelings, emotions & all.
    To be able to forgive is divine & healing, & set you free from past hurt & wounds so that you can spring back to normality & not being forever imprisoned in hatred & injustice & self-pity.
    Bottom line here, just be positive & optimistic. Take a look around you. That's the main traits of all the successful people in life.
    Cheerios! & Happy Chap Goh Mei to all who are celebrating Chinese New Year! :D
    Auntie Sarah

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    1. Thanks for dropping by my blog with those kind and encouraging words, Auntie Sarah! <3

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  24. Beautiful red skirt<3



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  25. Nah, no problem. I love quotations, you could call me a quote-hunter, lolol.
    I just installed GFC, so now you should be able to follow now, if there are any problems, just call me.
    I just followed you, too. Love to read more of your posts!

    Keep bloggin'
    xx

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    1. I've submitted, thank you for the invitation!

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  27. Number 3 , I would love to take a moment for revenge . It couldn't be ridiculous in my sight .
    Lovely outfit , I love to make braids <3
    I'm your new follower . And I must say your writing skills are so real :)
    Noor @ Noor's Place

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    1. Thanks for your compliment and your kind words! I shall try to keep blogging and keeping them real and I've followed you back! :D

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  28. Lovely post + pictures! I love your blog. I'm your newest follower :) Would you mind checking out our blog & following back via GFC and Bloglovin'? Looking forward to your next post! xx

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    1. Thanks love! Your blog is amazing *u* I've followed you back on both! <3

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  29. Super cute outfits, all of them!

    Xoxo
    Shalane
    Www.thefashionmoodboard.com

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    1. You have a really wonderful story and I really enjoyed reading it <3 Thanks for sharing <3

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  30. cute photos, love the fishtail braid!

    xx http://fameliquorlove.blogspot.com

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  31. followed back!
    http://namelessfashionblog.blogspot.it/

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  32. Hello sweety! This is such a great post (: like it! Are we following yet? If not then, let's follow via gfc, facebook and bloglovin! Let me know if you are following me! I'd love to follow back too! Stop by me soon!xx

    Kisses ♥
    www.fashionholicsparkle.blogspot.com

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  33. Forgive and forget. I don't think I'm a person who can completely forget something so that choice doesn't count for me in the first place ;p

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  34. Hehe you're so cute :3 I tend to forget over time... and hence I guess in a way that's kind of like forgiving? idk. following you btw~~~ :)

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  35. youre soo cute :)

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    xoxo

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