50 Things a Girl Would Want but Not Ask For - Yay or Nay?

This morning  I was blasted yet again with something like this:

"50 things a girl would want but not ask for" and the lists goes on and on and on and on and on.  I stopped at Number 10 and thought to myself:

Then I started thinking that all this people (female) are ridiculous for wanting all this things (read below) (no I am kidding, don't read it, ain't nobody got time for that man):

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
…4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.

Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.

Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.

One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.

24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!

WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..
26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.

ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.

35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.

REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.

ULTIMATE LOVE
46.  Buy her things that she hinted she likes.
47.  Be very nice and courteous to her side of her family.
48.  Ditch your game for her when she needs you.
49.  Never let her wait on you.
50.  Bring her to all the places that she wants to go.

(yes I am silently mocking fifty shades of grey, problem?)


I mean, what the heck is all of this?  We female are just a normal person like you and me.  We don't need a guide to our partner on 'how to' or 'what to' do or how a person should treat us.

And even more annoying, if you want something you should ask.  Why wait?  And if you are going to wait but it never happens, then you feel disappointed or sad.  That's  just asking for it, isn't it?  And I believe that I don't need to check on everything on that list ot show that he loves me.  I don't need him to do each number to let me know that he is in love with me and what, is this list exhaustive or repetitive?  How often does a guy have to do this in a month?  Or does he have to do this every other day?  Or is this one list to last for an entire life time? 

E.g.  Number 25:  Why not change that sentence to Public Display Affection.  Sounds just about the same.

And I've also thought that won't guys feel that their girlfriend is super needy or attention seeking or "What did I do?  Why is she upset?"  I thought all this are simply female's expectation of what a boyfriend or a husband should be but seriously, what about putting yourself in their shoes?  What if today, the net is filled with list of 100 THINGS OF WHAT A GUY WANTS BUT NEVER ASK, and when you (female) don't do what's on the list, your boyfriend throws a tantrum or accuse you of not loving him enough?  I will simply give you the eyebrow:

MS Paint strikes once more!  Mr Skeptical Eyebrow!

However, all this are simply my thoughts and assumptions and to prove one is right, one gotta ask the right person so I shamelessly interrupted 4 male friends early in the morning to ask their opinion on this.  My exact question was: 

 "What's your opinion when you see those list posted by girls like "50 things guys must do" Do you disagree or do you actually agree with it?"

"Those list are ridiculous"

"Who the hell expect guys to follow it?"

"This girls are hopeless"

....was what I expect to hear.  Instead, what I actually got was (which surprised me)

"Tbh I actually read them.  I don't think they apply to everybody (that'd be stereotyping) so I just keep in mind and try to apply whichever is relevant.  Just a fun read, that can be useful at times :P"

"For me i think its a fun read.  Errr...well...yeah i think i can agree to some of it.  If the list sounds too one sided i would not agree though"

"I'm agreeing with it, hahaha"

"From what I can see it's just like someone who's begging for affirmation.  The fact that it's 24/7 is kinda ugh Can't I just trust her to know I love her?  On that note this checklist seems like a rapist's/molestor's dream"

HAHAHA at the last one.  But it is surprising to find that 3 out of 4 of my male friends actually think it's okay to have such a list! o.o  Now that is REALLY surprising.

Then it struck me.  Perhaps if there is really a list of 50 Things that a Guy Wants but not Ask, perhaps I would actually take the time or at least have interest to read it, rather than reading 50 things that a Girl wants.  Perhaps it's because I am a female myself therefore I think such list is 'nah, urgh, boo' but put it the other way round, I would want to know what my male counterpart is thinking or do things that would please them, just as how le boyfriend or le husband wants to do things to please their female counterpart as well.

So, I asked these few guys another question:

"Do you think that there should be a list like that from male to female? Because most of the ones we see out there is from female to male"

"mm imo nope :P  if I have any particular preferences, I'd prefer my gf discover them through myself or observation, rather than me blatantly stating them on a list lol. "  <-- Well, that's my exact thought on the girl's list >.>  So we think the same when we are on the other side >D

"Err...idk.got mix feeling like one part seems like interesting read and one part is it would sound gay.  I guess it depends on how good it is delivered i guess"

"i cant wait to read that hahahha"

So this time, it is a mixed feeling thing for guys to read or think if it's necessary to have a list of guide for girls to let them know what their male counterpart likes without telling them.

All I can sum up is, in the end such list perhaps is not as useless as what I thought it would be, at least for their counterparts.  The sex where the list is aimed for perhaps might think its useless but their counterpart might think differently.  I guess it's always different when we see things from another perspective.  A pretty interesting perspective in this matter, I would say.

So anyways, I've further threaded on these few kind guy's courtesy and ask them to come up with few things that a guy would like a girl to do for them for your sake <3

1.  Cook a nice meal when they comes back from work.

2.  Gives him a big, tight hug when your guy is stressed from work.

3.  Letting your guy do his hobby.

4.  Not getting too friendly with his bros.

5.  Wearing his T-shirt or hoodie and game like bro.

6.  Girls who wears spectacles, not hipster spectacle but spectacle.

Yeah well, the list ain't too long because some of the things that they want from their girlfriend is actually the same as some of the list from What a girl wants so that one same list could be used vice versa towards your guy and I believe that they would appreciate it just as much as you do.

At the end of the day, I still gotta agree with this male friend where he mentioned:

"Well on top of my list would be having a girl to love and accept me for who I am.  I think that's the single most important thing to me, beyond that it's mostly petty preferences"

and that's what I think what my partner should be too.  Accepting of who I am, love who I am be it when I am being an ass, bitch, spoiled, nice, angel, devil or any other form that I can take and the same goes to him.  We all have our differences but it is learning and the ability to adapt to each others differences that makes the relationship lasts.  If you really can't accept each others differences, it would be better if the relationship just stop at being just friends as it will bring you nowhere.

First 3 months of every relationship >D

Following months / years of relationship until it ends >D

Courtesy of Kuroya-Ken

To the 4 male friends, thank you for your interesting feedbacks.  <3

How about the rest of you?  I would love to know what you think.  Let me know!

Tag, You're It!

Last night at midnight (my timezone), Peet  tagged me and who's Peet? She is one super cool person and is responsible for single handedly almost getting me fired from work because I was Laughing out Loud (for once) for reading her post on "How to Get Rid of A Girl :10 Different Tips!" during work time.  Well, my own fault but anywaysss, this tag wants me to list down six (6) yes six, not 100 random things about myself so here goes! <3

First

I've NEVER been tagged before so this is the FIRST TIME I am doing such a thing and I feel that there's a need to celebrate!!  I don't know, people just don't tag me for such random funs on Facebook or anywhere else :<  I've always seen people answering pages and pages of funs or questions or things like that but never me, so thanks Peet! <3 There really IS a first time for everything!  *successkid.jpg*  The only thing I've ever got tagged or asked to fill up are questionnaires which are well, questionnaires and of course, answer sheets for exam >.>  But note that this is not an invitation to send me a hundred tag just because I've been deprived of it >D

Second

For a very very short time of my life, I was actually bulimic and I believe very few people know about this :D    Yeah well, one does not simply puke and go telling the whole World about it.  One could expect but one might never thought of me doing it lol.  There's always a time in someone's life where they are insecure about themselves, insecure about their physique, insecure about their relationship, insecure about their wealth but the good thing is, this things comes and go for most people and I am glad to say it's been a really long time since I last try to force food out of myself.  Never be afraid to admit your mistake.  It can only make you feel better and go further.  Being afraid and acceptance is the first step towards healing.

Third

People never really believe that I have a temper, and quite bad one in fact because they all think I am super pleasant, amicable and "cute".  Quite contrary to that, I had a history of being notorious, hooligan and many of my older relatives does not really favour me back when I was a kid.  There was several accounts where my relative would pinch me till I bleed but it was my own fault for flipping her skirt every 5 seconds while walking behind her in a shopping mall :D  I deserved it :P  My point is, those tempers are still there, merely subdued but given the correct time and pushing the right button, you might see my old self once more :D  And no, I would not pop out from between your legs going "GUESS WHO?"

Fourth

I am a freak of gadgets and specifications.  I love, or rather, have a compulsion to read reviews of everything before I buy anything.  I would read up to twenties, thirty or more web pages and also asking people who owns that device before making a final decision but once I've made my decision it's not going to be easy to change my mind on that :D  That being say, I am a proud Applefan.  No, not those who shoves Apple products down your throat telling you that it's the best device out there (though Siri might disagree with me) I simply like it as it suits my usage.  Taking brilliant photos and it's good for game handling as it doesn't really hang.  I do not really give much f-s whether or not I can customize the layout and all so yeah, Apple has been serving me good so far <3

Fifth

For a person who loves food and grew up on pastries (because I don't like rice), I've never had the chance to bake until December last year.  That's the first time that I've ever baked and boy I would never want to leave the kitchen because of the smell of melted chocolate, whiskey on fruit cake and so on.  I've always liked baking and collected a few cookies/cakes book but never really the type who sits down and actually bakes them but I would take it as a blessing in disguise to slow down the process of my expanding waistline. No, do not refer to number two up there.

Last :D

It was my secret ambition to be either an astronaut or a singer though the only person who would tolerate my singing is my mother but nevertheless I am still looking for an opportunity to try to record a YouTube video of me singing but up todate, no such luck and my favourite movie will forever be The Parent Trap (1998) where I've watched the movie more than 600 times that I can tell you exactly which is Lindsay Lohan and which is her double, movie bloopers like one leg there and one leg gone the next second in the same scene and etc.  Yes I am a TV freak.  I could sit on the couch all day, eat sleep and eat somemore without budging an inch - if only I can.

P/s:  It is a heart breaker to know that Natasha Richardson, the actress who played the character of the mother has passed away in 2009 due to a head accident during ski-ing T____T


Thanks Peet, for the opportunity to be tagged and tagging others *rubs hands*  I choose YOU, YOU and YOU!
You = Jaslin  You = Maria and You = Evelyn!  for being so nice to me and everyone else and now I am just being a pain in the ass by tagging you >D  Extra work for you!  <3 I wish I could tag you once more Peet, then we would know another 6 random things about you but that's not allowed isn't it QQ

So gogogo!

Currently in love with my new statement necklace <3

AND, I LOVE ALL THINGS ROUND!  Check out this hilariously cute video!! My friend posted this as a response to my "I ate so full that if I fall face down right now I will bounce right back" and crap, he has never been so right!  OAO

Valentines Dress/Tips & How My Pre-Valentines Date Went!

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I guess everyone is excited about the upcoming combo:  Valentine + Lunar New Year because that gives us girls a very valid reason to go S-H-O-P-P-I-N-G!  Below are some pictures of dresses or outfit recommendation on what you could wear if you haven't thought of what to wear for February 14th yet!

Well it really depends on where you guys  are going!  If you know for sure that your special one is taking you out to somewhere fancy and private, then by all means go ahead and dress up from head to toe!  For this, I would recommend that you wear something feminine and elegant :D  Preferably long dress because long dresses just brings out the feminine aura in you.

A closer shot at the beautifully sewn beads <3

If your partner is keeping it a surprise where he is bringing you, then don't go for something too extravagant as it might appear inappropriate if he is to bring you to a more casual outing or place.  If you have no idea on what to wear for such occasion, just keep it simple and sweet because simple and sweet always does the trick!  You could go for something similar to those below <3

Peach or Pink is forever in fashion and you can never go wrong with pink!

Casual and sweet baby fuschia dress brings out the fun and cuteness in you, so go for it!

Burgundy is a sexy colour if you ask me, and seems perfect for Valentines too.  You will not look like a drag queen but you spell sexy and fun with a feminine lacy dress of knee length!

OR, if you are really not sure or you don't have any dresses on short moment notice, then you can never go wrong with a nice and fancy top with simple a simple leggings/tight pants.

If you've noticed, this year I have quite a few pieces of lace outfit because lace is all over in fashion this year so don't be shy and lace everything up because you will only look better!

For me, I've gone out on my date with my special one few days earlier as my family would be here for Lunar New Year and we wouldn't have time to go out on Valentines so for this special day, I wore really casual.  A singlet top with denim jacket to go with it and our date went real lovely <3

It was one heck of a date and we were being so overly sweet that people was staring at us.  Oh gosh, shame on me >_<  And I don't mean to let it all out on my blog publicly but I just could not hold all this sweetness in so I gotta let it out somehow >_<

My date's being adorable and taking pictures of me while I want to feed him.  SO sweet <3

Another shot of me while I was just smothering over him.

It's kind of embarrassing to be sharing moments like this on the Net but I will not be selfish and here's a picture of me and my date >_<

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Enough said.



HAPPY VALENTINES PEOPLE!  AND ALL YOU SINGLES OUT THERE, YOU SHALL HAVE YOUR FAITHFUL CAMERA WITH YOU T_T